We are well aware of a plethora of contributing factors that cause teens and adolescents to jettison their Torah upbringing only to embrace a lifestyle where all tinges of spirituality have been expunged. We somehow lost the ability to communicate unadorned Judaism left to its natural beauty. That beauty can be riveting and gratifying. Success supplants goodness in the commercial world. In a world of Emes, goodness should be rewarded more than success. The Chofetz Chaim expresses this thought regarding the Tefilla of Reb Nechunya ben Hakana as stated in the Mishna in Brachos.The collective tragedy of losing so many precious teenagers to sour offerings of attractive vanity, which can subdue even a most resistant heart, should engender some real change.

The panacea for our ills is not axioms, platitudes or strict rules. In the world of secular psychology, the noted psychologist/author, Karen Horney, (contemporary of Erich Fromm) wrote a whole chapter in her book about what she calls, “The tyranny of the ’shoulds.’” When intelligent people read books that manipulate parents’ desire for direction by dispensing axiomatic advice, they recognize the lack of intelligence and foolishness offered. We should be more discriminating about the advice we pick up and incorporate into our relationships. The suggestions in books resting on the shelves of the self- help section in major book stores and articles of advice written in various journals or magazines, even from our frum community, are, for the most part, mere entertainment.

Chanoch L'na'ar Al Pi Darko – “Train your son according to his way” is eternal Solomonic wisdom. However, to carve out a unique path for each young talmid is personal and, thus, lonely. But when the Rebbe joins his student on his journey and path, loneliness surrenders to joy and self transcendence. Teens are not impressed with John F. Kennedy’s classic remark that “life is unfair.” They make a determined attempt to enforce the laws of fairness. If adolescents have reasonable expectations that are unmet then their search for self identity can be very confusing. There imagined profile of themselves has no profile, seeks no profile, and desires no profile but only abstract imagination.

The Chazon Ish in his precious sefer, Emunah U’Bitachon, demands that teachers not only educate, but more importantly, inspire by example. Children of all ages deserve to have proper role models, whether as parents or as teachers. Role models that value character, effort, temerity and sincerity at least equal to the value of academic achievement and success. Though there are many stories to be told of our Gedolim zt”l that reinforce the above ideas, I do not find anecdotes to be an adequate substitute for thought regarding this sensitive issue.


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Simply stated, I came to Yeshivas Kol Yaakov a little more than two years ago at the age of 28 because I wanted to learn how to become a religious Jew. I had been living in Chicago and Milwaukee since the age of 15 when I moved to the States from Minsk, Ukraine. After studying at the Milwaukee Institute of Art and Design, I was looking for a sense of permanence in my life, something to rely on, and I was tired of constantly falling through the emptiness of the imaginary reality that I kept constructing for myself – my art, my work, and my days of watching television. I saw that the secular world was failing me and that the best it could offer was a bittersweet taste of unrealized dreams. I came to Kol Yaakov looking for a world where kindness, compassion, sense of self-worth were immutable truths and not subject to one’s will or desire. In the secular, world all these things were nothing but words giving a good face to the society that is thoroughly selfish. Here at Kol Yaakov these words are real, not only heard but also seen, because they are realized with the lives of religious Jews who learn here and other religious Jews who live in Monsey. I had never, besides for my own family, seen so much genuine kindness coming from the rabbeim and bochurim as here in the yeshiva, I didn’t even believe before coming here that such a place existed.

It took a while for me to come back to my senses - to realize why I ended up here and then to appreciate it. It took a while to sense once again the pulse of my Jewish soul, stuffed away, obscured by years of living a selfish, stupid life but always longing for my Father in heaven. I only feel that soul through learning Torah, overcoming my earthy nature, and becoming more spiritual by being less concerned with pleasures of the body and more concerned with pleasures of the soul. Slowly, I realized that I came looking for G-d, looking to come close to the only One who loves and understands me intimately.

I became observant about a year before coming to yeshiva. I kept saying to myself that I didn’t know anything, trying to be humble. However, in my heart I thought that I did know something. Mostly, I had an idea as to what being a religious Jew means. So then, coming here was like going from one world into the next – the one I thought never existed and definitely couldn’t have imagined on my own, at least not without being pushed. It’s a world I wasn’t used to because it’s a world of Truth.


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Testament to the lingering impact Kol Yaakov has had on those who pass through its doors, was a very special alumni shabbaton/melave malka held in Yerushalayim in February. More than 50 alumni and their families spent a special shabbos in a Jerusalem hotel with their Rosh Yeshiva, Harav Leib Tropper, with whom they all maintain a close connection and who travelled especially to Israel for this event. Spending Shabbos with 50 families of B’nai Torah living in Israel underscored for all those who attended the strength that makes Kol Yaakov the viable institution that it is. Appropriately enough for a group of alumni, the Rosh Yeshiva’s shiurim covered the topics of chinuch habanim and re-energizing one’s commitment to Torah living. This incredible event (destined to be an annual event!?) would not have been possible without the concerted and collective efforts of the dedicated alumni in Eretz Yisroel, among whom are Reb Yoav Simantov, Reb Dovid Charlop, Reb Eliezer Medwed and Reb Dovid Illians. The responses to this experience echoed one another, in that during that shabbos, the alumni felt as if they had taken a trip back in time to their yeshiva days by davening together, hearing shiurim from their Rosh Yeshiva and experiencing an uplifting and inspiring melave malka.


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Rabbi Aaron Parry and family upon the passing of their wife and mother


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It’s all about low hanging fruit. At least that’s what we once called a Horizons’ kiruv project we started more than a year ago. The premise was simple; there are so many mitzvos that our (largely non-observant) fellow Jews can be encouraged to perform that don’t require a major or permanent level of commitment or knowledge. As the performance of every mitzvah counts and as mitzvah goreres mitzvah (one mitzvah leads to another), this presents a win-win proposition. “Easy mitzvos”- hence the term, “Low Hanging Fruit.” While mitzvos can be compared to fruit, no mitzvah should be described as “low hanging,” so the name was eventually changed to “Within Your Reach.” This little, easy to read, full-color guidebook, edited by Rabbi Dovid Jacobs, describes a selection of mitzvos that meets one of the following criteria: It doesn’t involve an on-going commitment and is easy to perform (e.g. posting a mezuzah); It doesn’t involve a major time-commitment (e.g. 5 minutes to say Shema); It already is being performed out of social or familial obligations (e.g. attending a wedding or funeral); or, though difficult, is usually observed, to some degree anyway (e.g. kivud av v’em); or any combination of the above. The lesson in many of these mitzvos is that by having the cognizance that you are performing a G-d- given commandment, you transform your simple act of social obligation or chesed into an eternal mitzvah.

within your reachRick Bookstaber, the brainchild and sponsor of “Within Your Reach,” describes his inspiration for this project: “My interest in “Within Your Reach” came from my desire to increase my own level of Jewish observance. In the nomenclature of economics, there are high barriers to entry for being an observant Jew: The complexity of many of the mitzvot, the need to learn Hebrew and the difficulty I have, given my inclinations, tempered by over fifty years of non-observance, in simply sitting through Sabbath services or after-dinner benching. During my studies and hours of discussion with Rabbi Tropper, I realized several important points for those who were not observant. The starting point for observance is to recognize that all mitzvot, whether they are being followed or not, are given by G-d. This is the major distinction between going down the path of Orthodox observance and stopping short within the Conservative or Reform framework. Since even the observant Jew fails at times in fulfilling the mitzvot, using this as a starting point means I am at least on the same path as the observant Jew. The second is that it is better to do a mitzvah once, or on occasion, or in part, than not to do it at all. This leads to the essence of “Within Your Reach.” The best path toward Jewish observance is the path that finally gets you where you want to go. And that is likely the clearest and simplest path. So out of all of the mitzvot, “Within Your Reach” presents those that are clear and accessible. But, importantly, it emphasizes these as a starting point, not an end in itself.”

“Within Your Reach” is available for a discounted price for individuals and/or kiruv workers who are looking for something tangible to pass along to those with whom they have made contact. Beside the guidebook, there is a website that encourages digging deeper into the observance of these and the other mitzvos. While the website is currently under construction by Rabbi Yehuda Friedland, the guide is available now from the Kol Yaakov/Horizons office.


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Though 25 years is generally called a Silver Anniversary, Rabbi Leib Tropper has, in that time, as Rosh Yeshiva of Kol Yaakov, developed the gold standard for transforming raw balei teshuva recruits into full-fledged b’nai Torah. Time hasn’t diminished the fervor of Kol Yaakov’s efforts and goals as, currently, the yeshiva’s beis medrash thrives with some of the strongest masmidim that have ever graced its halls. With this crowning achievement, it is with much excitement that the yeshiva is in full swing planning its upcoming 25th Anniversary Dinner, scheduled for October 28, ’07 at the Sheraton Crossroads in Mahwah, NJ. Not only is any 25th anniversary a major milestone, considering that Kol Yaakov does not hold even a regular annual dinner, this event will prove to be a most singular one. With that in mind, the dinner will truly be a unique opportunity for talmidim, alumni, friends and supporters to show their appreciation to a special institution and to Rabbi Tropper, its indefatigable steward for 25 years, who most appropriately, is the honoree for this momentous occasion.

To mark this anniversary, a special commemorative book “Responding to the Voice: Memories and Profiles” will be published. The book will chronicle the personal stories of alumni members of Kol Yaakov and the major role that they have played in building Jewish communities in many parts of the world. This book will include many features, pictures and the 25-year history of the Kol Yaakov Torah Center as a major international center of “kiruv.” Alumni of the Yeshiva will have the opportunity to sponsor a page in the book with their personal biography, detailing their journey as baalei teshuva, and include their personal experiences at Kol Yaakov, their post Kol Yaakov development and their lives today. Supporters of Kol Yaakov and Horizons, who are not alumni but wish to sponsor a page in this commemorative book, can still dedicate one of the many pages of yeshiva history, personal stories of alumni, messages from Rabbonim including the Rosh Yeshiva or one of the other honorees of the dinner, Dr. Joseph Sutton, Rabbi Dovid Stefansky and Susan Blond, as well as the awardees of the dinner, including: Rabbi Dr. Joel Gellen, Chovev Torah Award; Mr. Louis Gilbert Esq., Nazer Chesed- Crown of Kindness Award; Rabbi Yaakov Barros, Alumnus, Harbotzas Torah Award; Mr. Amitai Bielinki, Alumnus, Ahavas Torah; and Harav Moshe Bernstein zt”l, Memorial Award. In addition, there will be other memorial pages and those dedicated to friends of the Yeshiva and Horizons. All alumni are encouraged to participate in biographical section of the book by contacting the Yeshiva office.

The dinner itself will feature, as keynote speaker, Hagaon Harav Reuven Feinstein shlit”a and special guest speaker, Mr. Thomas S. Kaplan, Chairman of Horizons/Lillian Jean Kaplan Jewish Pride Through Educational Project and the Eternal Jewish Family. A highly anticipated video presentation, chronicling the 25 year history of Kol Yaakov and produced by Peretz Eichler, will be debuted. The chairmen of the dinner are Mr. Neil Auerbach and Mr. Yosef Hendler. All supporters of Kol Yaakov and Horizons are urged not to miss this critical opportunity to help make this event the success that it must be to ensure the future of Kol Yaakov.


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Shmuel Dovid & Shoshana Drossman upon the birth of their daughter, Gila Rus

Rabbi & Mrs. Yehuda Friedland upon the birth of their daughter, Esther Hadassah

Avi & Julia Jaman upon the birth of their son

Yonason and Michelle Meadows upon the birth of their daughter

Mr. & Mrs. Meir Zemel upon the birth of their daughter

Mr. & Mrs. Larry Pollack upon the bar mitzvah of their son, Zechariah

Mr. & Mrs. Leonard Friedland upon the engagement of their daughter, Esther to Yosef Savetsky

Moshe Holender upon his engagement to Bryna Fabian

Rabbi & Mrs. Eliezer Medwed upon the engagement of their daughter

Moshe Asher upon his marriage to Sora Chava Cohen

Rabbi & Mrs. Mayer Beller upon the marriage of their son, Dovi to Rachaeli Abramowitz

Mr. & Mrs. Peretz Eichler upon the marriage of their son, Chaim Dovid

Yoel Judowitz upon his marriage to Mindy Freedman

Rabbi & Mrs. Aharon Kasirer upon the marriage of their son

Mr. & Mrs. Yossi Raice upon the marriage of their son, Yehuda to Daniela Rubenstein

Mr. & Mrs. Reuven Rohinsky upon the marriage of their son, Aharon

Rabbi & Mrs. Refoel Rosenman upon the marriage of their daughter, Rivka Malka to Elozor Aharon Friedman and upon the marriage of their son, Shloimy to Sarah Leah Worthman

Michoel Stern upon his marriage to Tova Mocton

Rabbi & Mrs. Shlomo Swartz upon the marriage of their daughter, Devorah to Yosef Nadiv

Mazel Tov to Kol Yaakov alumnus, Yaakov Gruber and his wife, Rivka upon the siyum on all of Shas by their son, Shmuel

YOUR MAZEL TOVS ARE OUR MAZEL TOVS. PLEASE LET US KNOW ABOUT YOUR SIMCHOS BY CALLING THE OFFICE OR EMAILING US.

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